LoveMaze
lovemaze·Mar 2, 2025"I met a charming, witty man the other day, and I can't stop thinking about him.
I'm not sure if he feels the same way romantically, but he's someone I'd like to keep as a friend if it doesn't lead to romance.
I want to ask him out to get to know him better.
I'm considering several options—concert, restaurant, park—but I want it to feel natural and avoid any awkwardness.
Of course, I'm hoping for a high chance of a 'yes' to my request. What's the best approach?"
This might sound counterintuitive, but the best way to ask someone out is to ask for their help.
Whether it's moving, buying electronics, or negotiating a contract with your landlord—anything that could use an extra pair of hands or a second opinion works.
First, it's hard to say "no" to someone asking for help.
Second, you'll naturally get to see how they solve problems and work with you as a team.
Most importantly, helping triggers a psychological effect called "Effort Justification."
When people put effort into something, they often rationalize that effort by increasing the value of the goal they're working towards.
If he puts in effort for you, his mind might whisper that you're special.
